Well I don't have it all together. Not even close. And, frankly, I'm getting worse and worse at keeping up appearances at all. I have become "that mom," who's always late, always disheveled, always forgets to pack her kid's coat/backpack/homework/etc, and whose house looks like a storm blew through. But you know what? I'm ok with that! Today, I'm going to get real with you. Very real. I'm going to give you a peek into what my crazy, messy, chaotic life actually looks like - and why I feel so blessed anyway.
I know that many of the pictures I'm posting have been ripped from Pottery Barn sites and the like, but I am constantly amazed at the number of families I visit (yes, families with small children, even) whose homes really do look like they're straight out of a catalog - spotless, impeccably decorated, and very tidy. And every time I visit a home like this I think to myself "what on earth am I doing wrong that my house is such a mess, and their house is amazing!?" Well - here's a look at my dream house, my real house, and why the two are so disparate. I hope that it can be at least a little encouraging to some of you.
Instead, my house looks like this:
And while I would LOVE for my kids' rooms to look like this:
In fact, even when it comes to my own room, instead of this:
1) I am so blessed to have a home at all. It's warm, it's cozy, it's plenty big for all 5 of us. It's in a beautiful neighborhood and we don't struggle to pay for it. It meets all of our needs and many of our wants just the way it is. We don't spend lots of money on matching bedroom-sets or paintings for the walls, but that's money we can use to spoil our kids, help a friend in need, or, well, save up for our dream house - when the kids are older.
2) I have 3 healthy kids who are so energetic and creative that they turn this house upside-down. They draw on the walls because they want to create art. They drag food out all over the house because they want to be independent and feed themselves. They haul furniture from room to room because they're making-believe. They even spit their dinner out on the floor because they like to make each other laugh. My parents continually remind me of the damage I did to our home when I was a young, creative and energetic child myself. And while I'm continuing my efforts to teach them boundaries and discipline, I know that they will grow. And I will be very sad when my house is tidy, and well decorated - and quiet.
3) I am comfortable. I have exactly what I need to stay warm, well dressed, well fed and well rested. In fact, I have far more than I need (and am constantly trying to clear out the clutter). My things might not always be tidy, my house might not always smell like roses, and I may not be the world's best decorator, but I'm well taken care of, well provided for, and well loved. And I would much rather have that than live in a page out of a Pottery Barn catalog.
I hope this little peek into my world might help some of you feel better about your own. Our children are our priorities and everything else is just icing on the cake. So I'll try to stop feeling bad because I'm not Supermom and I don't have a perfect house. I'll just do the best I can with what I have, and spend all that extra energy seeking contentment instead. And when those catalgos come in the mail, I'll take a look, daydream a little, and then put them tidily into the recycle bin.